When I first started working out, everything hurt SO BAD and I hardly felt like I could get through 30 minutes of exercise.
Everything made me winded.
Everything seemed awkward.
Everything seemed uncomfortable, physically and emotionally.
I was constantly tugging my shirt down, or pulling my pants up. Rigidly self-conscious and nervous, on top of physically uncomfortable. I understand on a deep and personal level why people join a gym and never want to step back in there…because I lived it. It is terrifying and humiliating. Even if you are fortunate enough to be surrounded by the right people who won’t let you quit or give up, it’s such an exhausting experience for your body and your heart, and it takes guts to keep going despite it all.
One of the first movements my trainer introduced me to was step ups. I had to hold onto TRX straps to help me step up onto the single step, and then back down to the turf. 20 steps on each side got my heart rate up instantly and it took awhile for that to get easier for me. Now that I am a couple years into my journey, those first fundamental movements I learned have gotten MUCH easier, and I’ve moved on to more and more things that I am able to do.
Last week I discovered that I am capable of jumping!! For anyone who is overweight, especially “morbidly obese” as I have been, we know that JUMPING is not on the menu.
And if I’m being honest, I have avoided jumping movements for a long time out of fear.
We had some box jumps to do during our new group training sessions, and I didn’t want to let all the other peeps down in the group by not even trying to see if I could do the jump. It was low enough to the ground where I didn’t feel like if I failed, I couldn’t recover gracefully.
So, I did it.
I jumped. I landed on the thing. Hopped down, and did it again.
It was SO FUN!!! I will NEVER grow tired of learning what more and more I am capable of. Being able to LIVE life and do these things is why I have fallen in love with this process.
That is the magic of fitness.
But sometimes I forget that.
Sometimes that gets blurred by something negative, dark and gross that sneaks into my head and clouds my vision, and I lose focus.
Today, while getting to workout with one of my favorite peeps, I was trying to show off my box jumps! I did 4-5 in a row and he challenged me to add on one more level. I knew I could do it, so I did! He filmed it for me because I wanted to share my newfound skill with the world!
We finished our workout and I headed to my car to watch the video, anxious to put it on my Instagram as my new NSV (non scale victory).
My heart sank.
All I could see was my body through polluted vision. I watched it 2-3 times and thought, “Well, I can’t put this up. I look so BIG, my skin is all loose, jiggly and hanging. Is this what I REALLY look like? Ugh. Nope.” And I threw my phone in my purse.
I ran around and did some grocery shopping and errands and before I headed back home, I checked my phone and low and behold, my camera roll popped up. The last picture that I took on my phone before my box jump video this morning, was of an affirmation that my support group ladies had come up with last week as our mantra. I had posted it as an encouragement and reminder to everyone:
“I have one body and I am worth the effort.”
But as I sat I my car, the message pierced my heart and hit home once again…FOR ME.
Everything came right back into sharp focus.
That knee jerk reaction we have as women to see ourselves and instantly cringe and HATE what we see is what fogs our joy.
Here I am, with this strong, amazing body that has been through hell and carries me every day through my life, jumping with ease and landing on things like a boss…and I’ve got the audacity to think it ugly?!
I will not lose focus.
Just because I don’t “look a certain way” yet, does not mean I haven’t changed. Just because my body jiggles doesn’t mean I’m not fit. Just because I’m not a certain size or weight doesn’t mean I’m not successful. Just because I’m not where I want to be yet, doesn’t mean I can’t be proud.
I refuse to continue to do this to myself.
For those of you who are just starting and everything seems to hurt, and feel pointless…please don’t give up. Please don’t allow that darkness to creep in. I promise if you keep going, it will get better and better and BETTER.
As a reminder to myself, I looked up my post from when I first started my journey,
And I will continue to remind myself how far I’ve come, because I have one body! And, it is worth the effort!